Discussion Guide: Asking For A Friend | Week 2 Why Would Christians Believe in a Loving God Who Allows Suffering?

Prayer

Because the primary goal of our time together is to establish relationships and learn how to walk with one another in all that God has called us to be and do, we’d like to begin by praying for one another. So, does anyone have anything you’d like us to pray for or anything to share regarding how you’ve seen God moving in your life that we can celebrate together?

Opening Question

How long, Lord? Will you forget me forever?
How long will you hide your face from me?

How long must I wrestle with my thoughts
and day after day have sorrow in my heart?
How long will my enemy triumph over me?

Look on me and answer, Lord my God.
Give light to my eyes, or I will sleep in death,

and my enemy will say, “I have overcome him,”
and my foes will rejoice when I fall.

But I trust in your unfailing love;
my heart rejoices in your salvation.

I will sing the Lord’s praise,
for he has been good to me.

– Psalm 13:1-6

Cultural Responses to Suffering

In the sermon, we heard an outline of five explanations for suffering various cultures have offered through history:
The Moralistic Response, which proposes that you suffer because it’s your own fault.
The Self-Transcendent Response, which proposes that suffering is an illusion, and you only escape it when you let go of any attachment.
The Fatalistic Response, which proposes that your fate is inevitably terrible, you simply must accept it.
The Dualistic Response, which proposes suffering is the consequence of living in the midst of a cosmic conflict, and you must choose a side.
The Secular Atheistic Response, which proposes that since God does not exist and there is no divine purpose or design, suffering is only a meaningless interruption in our existence. 

In the sermon, Dr. Green used a streetlight analogy to help us consider how we respond to the intersection of God’s love and human suffering. Each response can become unhealthy if we aren’t careful:
At a red light, stopping can become giving up on faith altogether. At a yellow light, pausing can become an opportunity to point fingers and blame God or others. At a green light, moving forward can become a way of speeding past the pain without stopping to assess the damage and grieve the cost.

The Biblical Response to Suffering

In the sermon, Dr. Green explained how the intersection of our faith and suffering is the picture of the cross. “Calvary turns your conflict points into contact points.” Jesus bore our pain and our suffering on the cross so that we can understand:

Faithfulness and suffering can co-exist.
God’s sovereignty and suffering can co-exist.
Suffering does not always come with an explanation.

Our Personal Response to Suffering

Dr. Green offered six personal ways to respond to suffering

Weep
Trust
Pray
Think 
Self-examine
Re-order Your loves

Closing Thought